Wishing He Were Dead


An 103 year old man in Patna, India wishes he was dead so desperately he is lying in his grave every day. Basanta Roy dug his grave in the Hindu tradition next to his wife. For the past 6 years he has tended the grave and lay down in it waiting to die.

But in true adherence to Murphy’s Law, poor Basanta has been denied the death that he so craves. Instead the site of his grave has now become a quasi tourist attraction as people from the surrounding region come to view him laying in his grave.

The perverse side of me laughs at this story, but the other side admires a man who so loves his wife that he wishes for death to be with her. So when you all feel melodramatic and say you wish you were dead, think of poor 103 year old Basanta Roy who embodies that sentiment every day.

Via Reuters

Posted May 6, 2007 by
Bizarre | 10 comments

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  • Comments

    10 Responses to “Wishing He Were Dead”

    1. Susan on May 6th, 2007 10:20 am

      How cold, cruel, heartless and “mean spirited” can you MONKEYS really be? You take a pathetic story about an old man grieving his wife’s death and twist it making fun of him! SHAME ON YOU!! Does it make you feel like a bigger person? You folks must have way too much time on your hands and a mind travelling a WARPED speed…

    2. Scared Monkeys on May 6th, 2007 10:44 am


      Instead, look of looking at it from the morbid self absorbed way that I am sure you view the world, look at it as a man who so loves his wife that life is not worth living. That such love is possible.

      And it was not the man I was making fun of but the people that go around the world perpetually announcing that they wished they were dead whenever anything bad happens to them.

      Got a mirror?


    3. Treehouse on May 6th, 2007 10:48 am

      Put down your wine glass, Susan. Your double vision has caused you to misread the article. No one is making fun of Basanta Roy, and it is you who has called his story pathetic. I would have said his story is interesting and maybe even provocative.

      It brings to mind a number of questions regarding the purpose of life, the condition of the human spirit, the refusal of the body to give up, etc., etc., etc. It is, in fact, a good discussion starter…nothing cold, cruel, heartless…

    4. Sherry on May 6th, 2007 11:23 am

      Personally I loved this article and would never had seen it had it not been on SM. It has a ‘Romeo and Juliet’ type of feel to it.
      But…my thoughts are the fact that he tends the grave and goes and lies in it everyday…sounds like he is in really great shape to be 103.

    5. Susan on May 6th, 2007 11:54 am

      It was you, Tom, who said, and I quote, “The perverse side of me laughs at this story”. Actually, there’s nothing funny about the article, no matter how you may perceive it. And by the way, you know nothing about me or my views of the world, with the exception of J2K. Me morbid? Take a long hard look at yourself…

      Treehouse, I don’t drink wine. It’s nasty!

    6. Scared Monkeys on May 6th, 2007 1:37 pm

      Susan my dear.

      I did, and I am sorry. Although, I hope that when I am 103 I will love my wife as much as this fine man loves his, and be wanting to join her on the otherside. And that we have achieved such joy in life that it is incomplete without her.

      If that is perverse, so be it.

      I hope that there is someone in your world that you can feel that strongly about and share these same emotions.


    7. Susan on May 6th, 2007 2:25 pm

      Apology accepted :)

    8. Ashwani Batra on May 26th, 2007 12:23 pm

      The news you guys have copied and pasted, I should comment nice job done, unfortunately this news does not stands close to the facts, firstly in HINDUISM dead are burnt and there are no graves. Secondly I researched it online and found no Indian news company covering this story to validate your point. Let me show you the facts, you have to guess the name of this lady from St. Petersburg, Florida, United States was a woman who suffered brain damage and became dependent on a feeding tube. She collapsed in her home on February 25, 1990, and experienced respiratory and cardiac arrest, leading to 15 years of institutionalization and a diagnosis of persistent vegetative state (PVS). She wished she died but unfortunately BUSH ran to WH(Y)TE HOUSE to convene emergency voting to save her from dying, fortunately she died in few weeks after BUSH failed to do anything.

    9. Antoni on August 11th, 2007 10:04 am

      I wish I was dead everyday since the woman I love left me. Life without her is like trying to love without my heart. I can’t enjoy anything in life anymore and I rarely laugh or feel happy. How can someone that was supposed to love you destroy you like this, I am living shell.

    10. Ashwani Batra on October 9th, 2007 2:32 pm

      These type of news come to draw poor outlook of countries who are competing with US market, next comes the plight of OLD people in skiiled nursing facilities in USA nad many western countries, children leave their parents in perfectly good condition or with minimal disease condition at these SNF and won’t take them back to their homes, I came across many such situations one touching episode was lady wanted to go home, and her kids would take her home only on weekends only to dump her back at SNF on mondays, she literally used to cry whole of monday cuz kids and grandkidz dont want her at their home inspite she being the owner of that house.

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