RSSScared Monkeys Radio Daily Commentary – Monday, August 11, 2008 – Law and Order Actor Jerry Orbach’s Family Exchanges Harsh Words
- Dana comments on a few of the things said between mother and son over the late actor’s estate
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Hey, no body puts baby in a corner.
Been reading that Paul Newman has weeks to live. Had been on Chemotherapy and wanted to go home to die. He has been getting his affairs in order. Already the family is upset about things of his will. He gave away his Ferrari number 82 to a long time friend and family is upset. Was a shock to read that about him, didn’t even know he was sick.. He has some great movies I love. Jerry Orbach was another great one.
http://www.momlogic.com/2008/08/drama_over_paul_newmans_will.php
This was a little from the Paul Newman explaining perhaps why there is strife over wills.
“Surprisingly, it’s not unusual for there to be family strife over a will when a loved one dies,” says Roseanne Tobey, LPC. “Often times, people assign emotional value to tangible items because it’s a way for them to channel their grief.”
In other words, it’s unlikely the family is upset over the car per se, but rather over the loss of their father. After all, they can hardly be angry with Newman for dying, so directing their feelings at an object (say, a Ferrari) gives their anger a specific target.
“What’s more, if the car held any significance to Newman, his kids may feel he’s giving away something they want to keep in the family–and that ultimately, he’s giving away a piece of him,” Tobey adds.
Another possibility: “His children may view their father’s dying wishes as a reflection of his feelings for them.” So however Newman may have divided his assets, it’s likely that someone–somewhere down the line–internalized any gesture as a slight.
And money has little to do with how much fighting occurs over a will. “Tension and arguing around the time of death is more reflective of pre-existing problems in the family and their coping skills as a unit, rather than an attempt to claim possessions.”
The bottom line: “It’s difficult to judge anyone’s actions when they’re dealing with grief because you never know what goes on behind closed doors,” Tobey says. “When emotions run high, there’s no telling how people will react.”