Tim Miller of Texas EquuSearch Takes part in The 21st Annual Meeting of Parents of Murdered Children
“Everybody in this room thinks they’ve gone through the worst possible thing — losing a child. I can tell them they have not. The worst possible thing is what you two are going through — not knowing. Not having that closure that allows you to fully grieve.” (Tim Miller)
There, but for the grace of God, go I. No one can empathize or understand more what goes thorough the mind of parents of missing or murdered children more than Tim Miller, founder of Texas EquuSearch. The non-profit volunteer search organization was formed as a result of the loss of Tim’s daughter, Laura.
Sharing his grief with other parents of murdered children, Miller said that he kept visiting the field where his daughter’s remains were found. Finally, one day, Miller said he prayed there.
“I made a promise to God at that moment, and I made a promise to Laura at that moment that we would never let a family be alone again,” Miller said. “I just did not know how many families there were.”
The parents of missing and murdered children belong to a fraternity that no one wishes to be a member of. No one, no one asks to be a part of this group. They are unfortunately chosen with no preferenceto race, creed, color, religion or economic background.
Everyone needs to remember this before they decide to judge parents actions of missing and murdered children. That means ALL parents of missing and murdered children. It is impossible to walk in their footsteps not knowing the pain, suffering and constant anguish that is present in their day to day life. These parents have lost their most precious gift in life. They have done the unthinkable, they have buried their child. Or worse, know their child is dead and not buried them.To judge them as they spend years going through the grieving process is unimaginable. They need organizations like the POMC to cope and continue to move forward in the grieving process.
Miller now manages to joke, a little, about joining POMC.
“I had run off all my friends, I had run off all the people who cared about me — all I could talk about was my grief. Until I found this group, I had no one left to talk to,” Miller said.
Read more HERE about Tim Miller and the family of murdered Kenny Ebarb who were present at the 21st Annual Meeting of Parents of Murdered Children.
Posted August 5, 2007 by Scared Monkeys Child Welfare, Deceased, Missing Persons, Murder, Texas Equusearch | 23 comments |
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“Everybody in this room thinks they’ve gone through the worst possible thing — losing a child. I can tell them they have not. The worst possible thing is what you two are going through — not knowing. Not having that closure that allows you to fully grieve.” (Tim Miller)
This is something that Paulus van der Sloot needs to be beaten with over the head AND it’s what all the Aruban trolls here don’t understand when they wonder why SM keeps hammering away at Aruba. Paulus and Aruba needs to understand that while no one and nothing can ever take away Natalee’s family’s pain – they must have closure. They must know where Natalee’s body is and return it to her home.
Any idea when Tim Miller is going to Aruba ???
Well they were going back in June…..but its August now…
God bless Tim Miller
God Bless Tim Miller and all the parents of missing and murdered children. I can recall when Mr. Miller was on TV with the mother of Jesse Davis, Jess’s mother was overcome with grief and there was Tim Miller supporting her by the arm.
I thought, look at this man, though he has and is still suffering thru his own, he is there for parents like Jesse Davis’s mother. What compassion. How many of us could put aside our own grief, to help others?
Tim Miller, John Walsh, Beth Holloway and others propelled by their own tragedies to help others. Wonderful people indeed.
God Bless You Tim Miller
Tim Miller is truly a Angel of a man sent from his beautiful daughter above to help as many families that need him.God will always bless you Tim.
{{{{{Tim Miller}}}}}
The world is a better place because of people
like Tim Miller,John Walsh and Beth Holloway.
God bless them .
There is also an article in this week’s People Magazine (August 13, 2007), Page 82, in a section called “Heroes Among Us,” about Tim Miller and EquaSearch. It says he that he has personally sunk $100,000 into EquaSearch. That’s a lot of money, but what he has given in self and spirit to families and friends of the missing is worth much, much more, and frankly not replacable! Words really can’t describe what I feel he has given and sacrificed in his life to honor his daughter.
pmt
That’s why it is so important for all of us to send some kind of a donation to help continue and support Texas Equusearch…..Tim has the fortitude to go forward but his cause needs our help…you see a lot of donations being given at the local grocery stores…why not a permanent fund established there…it benefits everyone, especially your child that is sitting in the grocery cart today….for many, many that is no longer the case….
Huh….I liked to see someone begin a Texas Equusearch collection in Aruba….in the stores, hotels and casinos. That’s the very least they could do! But nope…can’t remind tourists… and besides that, they want the tourist money.
TES is not going back to Aruba, ever It’s a freaking farce…
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SM: BS, why would you say that? How could you possibly know? You are wrong (klaasend)
klaasend, How many times have we heard that TES is going back to Aruba to do the watersearch and it never happens? Everytime TES schedules the “trip”, something else always comes up, i.e., another missing person search, some sorta function, etc.. That is no bullshit!
Kinda like the little boy crying wolf or Chicken Little’s “the sky is falling” or I’ve got land to sell you in the Everglades…
When you tell someone you are going to do something, then do it. Don’t make up excuses…
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SM: Do you think that TES is incapable of doing more than one search at a time? How many times have you heard Tim Miller give us a specific date of when he was going back to Aruba?? He hasn’t. He’s said when he hopes to go but never a specific date. The ships and team of experts that will be going on the ocean search are all donating their equipment and time. Tim Miller has to wait until they are available. (klaasend)
I would like to think Susan is frustrated like a lot of us (can I say us ???) We all want closure to this aruba pile of $hit soon and the search is so important !!! I was beginning to think the search was a trick to make the suspects or at least one of them crack.
Susan…if one of your family members was missing and there was still hope of finding them alive wouldn’t you rather that TES use what they have to look for the person who still might be alive? I know you understand how precious those first few days are. We all want Natalee found, but maybe Tim, who does have the experience after all, has to make tough decisions on using his funds and resources for other families who are just as desperate as Natalee’s.
Also, as Klaasend says this isn’t just Tim’s schedule, there are boats and experts to arrange, and I’m sure that a lot of people are doing this on their “free” time. When my dad had surgery that required 3 different types of surgeons it took months to get all of the specialists in the same room — with the results and outcome definitely worth the wait.
There is alot more to just TES in Aruba, there is a myriad of logistics involved, not to mention, Aruba giving TES the okay.
If Tim Miller said he is going, Tim Miller is going
Yes, buster, you hit the nail on the head and using US is appropriate. It is frustrating to hear that the water (ocean) search is going to take place (over and over again), but to date it has not. Imagine JUST how frustrating it is for Natalee’s family.
klaasend, How many times has TES announced an ocean search was going to place?
Miss-Underestimated, If the search is to be conducted in international waters, TES won’t need Aruba’s permission.
SM – Thanks for numbering the comments
Susan,
If I recall, TES said they are going back to Aruba.
Yes, Missy, TES has said that they were going back to Aruba on numerous occasions, but when can we (most importantly the family) count on that really EVER happening?
Why is Law Enforcement in Los Angeles not letting TES come in and search for Donna Jou as the father has asked. See the info evolving on the Thread under missing persons at scaredmonkeys.net “Donna Jou’. Will be an eye opened about the whys and why nots and also the details you might not have heard on your TV.
If I ever go missing, someone call TES right away! because I know they will find me!
Love ya, Tim Miller, Mrs. Miller, the office staff the, logistic search teams and the volunteers.
American is full of good people
God bless ya, Tim.
You are da man!
hey Tim, well i am a neice of Kenny Ebarb he was my dad’s brother. I am 16 and i am to the age were i know what’s going on around me and I am so upset that on July 15 it will be 5 years my uncle has been missing and the last time anything was ever done to try to help us with this case was the last search we done, so we need your help in anyway you can and to be honest even the smallest thing you do sure would help us. Thank you and my God bless every day of your life.